Marriage stuff

Last night my hubby irritated me and I was mad which doesn’t take much to do with me! But after I just backed off and let myself cool down I was fine and it didn’t bother me so much. When I was lying in bed trying to fall asleep I started to think about that and was proud of myself for coming so far. I used to be the one who would get mad over little things and wanted to argue about it. After arguing for a while I could never really remember what made me so mad in the first place. It made me think about the things I have learned since being with Matt for so long and being married to him. I think the three most important things to a good marriage are communication, respect for each other, and picking your battles.
I would never claim that our marriage is perfect or that I know a lot about being married but I do feel like being with someone for over ten years and married for three of those years qualifies me to talk about this!
Communication was not something we were good at in the beginning because we were both immature and trying to figure things out. I was always honest with Matt and wanted the same back from him. Now I would say we communicate very well and that’s our strongest area of our relationship. I know that when couples stop communication it can lead to issues.
Respecting each other has always been important. I don’t complain about Matt to my friends and never to his family. That will cause issues all around and out of respect for him I do not do this.
Picking your battles is huge. It’s easy to get upset with your partner and want to argue to prove your right but before you know it your two hours into a fight that doesn’t mean anything anymore. I am not saying it’s not okay to argue because I think it’s actually healthy and to disagree and talk it out is normal but starting an argument over everything is not going to make your relationship stronger. I think picking your battles comes with maturity and feeling confident in yourself and your relationship makes it easier to just throw in the towel and let the argument go.

Mr. Homemaker

For the last month my hubby hasn’t been working. When he started his IT program in august he went part time at Pepsi. This was to allow him more flexibility with school since that is Monday through Friday 8am to noon. He worked part time for a few months until Pepsi let him go. It wasn’t a huge shocker since it was a possibility the whole time. Pepsi doesn’t do part time and were making an exception for him. So for the last month he hasn’t had a job and there have been some definite perks. When he gets out of school he spends a few hours a day going grocery shopping, going to the bank, cleaning the house, doing laundry, and making dinner. Since I work full time and go to school as well this has been a huge help for me. I don’t have to worry about the dinner or house stuff because I know he has it taken care of. My hubby has gotten really good at doing all these things that it will be missed when he starts working again.
Last night we were talking about him getting a part time job, something around 20 hours a week and I have to admit a little part of me was saying no! I know he will still help around the house but I also know he won’t be able to help as much and I really got used to it! It’s nice to have a partner who can step up and help where you are lacking. I always tell my hubby we are a great team.

C- won't cut it

I got a call from my advisor right before Thanksgiving break who told me that in two of my classes I got a C-. I didn’t see the big deal until she said that the ACE program will not accept this. Of course I was super disappointed in myself for getting a C- twice but what could I do about it. I try really hard in all my classes and some things I am not going to be good at. So now I am stuck retaking those two classes in hopes of getting higher than a C-, no pressure or anything! But the worst news of all….this puts me back a semester. Because of how the classes in this particular program are laid out, they are not offered all the time. I was pretty bummed almost depressed. After talking to the hubby about it we decided it happened for a reason. That’s how we think most things happen in life, for a reason. They may not happen how you planned or you may not see the outcome at first but in the end you realize it was for the best.

Thankful

This year has been hard and continues to be but with everything going on I am happy and grateful for everything I have.

Laptop Sold

I'm glad I posted this on my blog, got it sold in 5 seconds flat!!!

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Crazy question

Matt asked me who I would be with if it weren't him. That's such an odd question because we have been together for over 10 years and I can't imagine being with anyone else. He says he makes me laugh and he's not sure anyone else would. He's probably right because I am laughing constantly with him. He is the funniest person I know with the best sense of humor. He makes everyone around him laugh and doesn't even try.
I'm blessed to have him in my life and don't want to think about who I would be with if it weren't him.

A dumb but fun decision

At the begining of the week I decided I wanted an iPad. Obviously this was something I wanted and not something I needed or even thought I would get but I still wanted it. I have had my iphone for over a month and just love it to pieces. Its just a device but I am now an apple person and my husband hates it. So on wednesday when I met the hubby for lunch I told him I wanted one. I told him I would sell my ipod and laptop (that I have only had a year) and then I could get an iPad. At first when I told him he rolled his eyes but I just tried to convince him. I had done alot of research but still needed his help to figure out if an ipad or another tablet would be the way to go. So we both decided to do more research and think about it. Friday I had the day off and still kept thinking about an ipad but I knew I need to sell my other two electronics first.
When Matt got home we went and got some lunch and did some errands and ended up at Best Buy. I looked at the ipads and still knew I wanted one but was open to the idea of another tablet. Well after leaving Best Buy we headed to the apple store in Boise to talk to some people who knew their stuff because I had some serious questions. I wanted to make sure I was making the right decision and I would still be able to use this ipad like a computer but only better. We got to the apple store and started to look around. Then talked to a sales person about my questions, I was satisified with the answers and ready to go when my dear hubby said lets get the ipad in white. I almost choked. I looked at him and the girl and then told him we needed to talk. I was not expecting to leave the store with an ipad, not at all... I didn't know what to think. We talked it over and I was so nervous for some reason but we left with one and I wasn't sure what to think. Right out of the store is a kiosk with invisible shields, needless to say an hour after that I left with an ipad, invisible shield, and keyboard case combo. When we got out to the car I screamed. I was in shock and so happy and nervous. I couldn't believe my husband had just done this. I will admit it was a rash decision and not the smartest one but honestly as bad as it sounds... I'm not complaining!!

Memories

I remember when I first met Matt I could tell his family meant the world to him. This was a different concept for me because my family has always been pretty much scattered all over. I stopped living with my mom the summer before sixth grade and have moved a lot and never really lived near any of my family. Even now my family doesn’t live close and you learn to adapt to that. As I get older though I appreciate family and long to live near them.
But Matt is defined by his family. They have helped shape him into the wonderful man he is. They helped guide him and teach him to be a decent person. I can see the many facets of him and can pin point which family member he got that from. I love that about him. I love how much he will do for his family even if they wouldn’t always do the same for him. It’s a good feeling to see someone with such a big heart give so freely to the people he loves.
Matt always talks to me about the good parenting skills his dad has taught him. He says that he didn’t do anything bad because his dad only had to give him “the look” and he wouldn’t dare do anything bad. It’s “the look” that Matt says he wants to do to our kids. As Matt gets older he resembles his dad so much more and I can imagine how he will look at his Dad’s age. Even down to this little patch of hair that Matt has on his hand in the same exact spot and Matt brings that up often. It’s weird how when you age you start to resemble your parents so much more.
Its crazy how fast life passes you by before you have the proper chance to tell someone how much you care about them and how much they mean to you. You want to tell them about the time you told them you loved them and they said it back and you appreciated it more than they could know. Or the time you saw them in so much pain dealing with the worst thing imaginable and you prayed to God to take it away. You want them to know how much they truly mean to you but words just can't express.
Life is a precious thing, something that should never be taken for granted.

SOA

WOW….

I love me some Jax from Son’s of Anarchy on FX, an amazing show and he definitely makes it better. I have a think for bad boys and this helps!!

This is me….

I would have to say this is one of my biggest pet peeves. I always think about what if’s then I worry myself to death about them. I feel like if I can prepare myself for the what if problems then they won’t be such a shock when they happen. A lot of the time this worrying is in my head and most people don’t know that its worrying 24/7 but my husband knows. He always tells me that I can’t worry about what if stuff because there is no point. As much as I know he’s right I still do it.

Halloweiner…..

I love Halloween and always have. I can remember my mom getting into Halloween when we were kids and my brother and I would dress up and so would my mom. It was always such a big deal. I can remember being a witch for most of elementary and my mom drawing a really cool spider web with a spider on my face. I was in third grade and felt so cool! As I got older I loved everything to do with Halloween like scary movies and going to haunted houses. When Matt and I got together we would usually just rent a bunch of scary movies, order pizza, and veg out getting spooked. Then we started a Halloween party tradition and made sure everyone came dressed up and we played games and voted on the best Halloween costume. It was always a big deal to think of a creative costume and not tell anyone just to see their reaction. Now that we are in school and don’t have as much money or time we stopped the Halloween parties and I have been bummed. This year we carved pumpkins, watched spooky movies and ordered Chinese. It was fun hanging out with my guy and eating junk food!

I am hoping that when we have kids the whole Halloween experience will be so much better because we will have a little one to dress up and give out candy.

My best Halloween movie is actually Halloween and all of them even the newest ones that Rob Zombie did.

         

Day 30 - A picture of someone you miss

Sorry mom, not the best picture but I liked the look on your face. I miss my mom. As I get older I miss her more and more. I miss being able to do certain things with her and learning things from her. I know when I have a baby I will miss having her close.

Day 29 - A picture that can always make you smile

This picture always makes me smile because my hubby makes me laugh constantly. I know what he’s thinking and we always have these little inside jokes. Also he makes the BEST BBQ’d burgers.